Today’s lunch on the bi-weekly menu plan

If you’ve read my blog for a while or know me in person for any length of time, you’d know that organization is big challenge of mine, and my struggles with that plays out in many ways in my life, often causing issues, and many times costing me extra money, either by forgetting to take care of things so I get charged late fees or things get ruined, or being so scatterbrained that I forgot to be prepared with something more frugal and end up spending more on getting or making things last minute that are more expensive…

I don’t think I can transform myself overnight from messy, disorganized, and absentminded to an organized, orderly person, as I think this is part of my intrinsic personality, for good or for bad, and goes hand in hand with my ability to multitask and be creative and spontaneous. However, I think it is possible for me to do certain organized things, if I work hard at it, and maybe that organization will help me in the long run, and eventually make me a slightly more organized person… or at least I can hope.

I love cooking, and I like creativity, and I like coming up with new ideas in the kitchen, but I’ve been busy lately and haven’t really been in the mood of cooking three meals a day for my family, and then another three meals a day for myself, since my kids won’t agree to eat the foods I eat and I can’t eat the foods they eat. So usually what happens is the kids come up to me and say “Mommy, I’m hungry! What’s for lunch?” And then I have to start thinking about what to feed them, and then it usually involves something super fast and easy to make because there isn’t time to cook something lengthy since they already are hungry by the time I start cooking. So suppers end up being more expensive because that’s what is faster to make. Discussing my grocery bills with my friend, she was saying that she isn’t particularly frugal at all, and spends pretty much the same as I do on groceries. (Mind you, I am making gluten free for everyone and paleo for myself, so that ups the cost, but still.) Which kind of makes me realize that I need to do something about my grocery bill, stat.
I also want to try to eliminate some of the stress that ends up around meal time because of this lack of organization and forethought on my part.
On top of everything else, there’s not much more frustrating than taking the time and energy to cook up a meal for my family and then have them say that they don’t like it, and don’t want to eat it.

So, I decided to do some interventions.

Time for disorganized me to get organized, and make a standard weekly menu plan, with a focus on foods that are not difficult to make, inexpensive, and the kids agree to eat.

I had a mini family meeting. Actually a “meeting” with the boys, since they’re the ones who are most picky about what they’ll eat and the ones that complain the most of what I cook isn’t too their liking.
I sat down with the boys and told them that we will be coming up with a menu plan, and explained the terms.
In short, I said that I want most of the meals to be with legumes, and since that is what they are most picky about, I asked them which legume meals they would rather I serve.
They came up with this list:
Hummus.
Terriyaki chickpeas.
Mujadara with carrots and raisins.

For each of those, I asked them how many times in the week they’d like me to serve that. When my boys disagreed about that, they found a compromise they were willing to go with. I also asked them what meal they would prefer to have these foods, lunch or supper, if they cared at all.
I then made a paper with a chart for each meal, and wrote down on little papers each meal they agree to eat, and how many times they are willing to eat it in a week, and then we played around, positioning it on the chart until we found a configuration they agreed to. We decided to do vegan suppers only twice a week, the other nights of the week are with animal protein meals, again cheap or somewhat cheap ones that they like and agree to eat.

I asked them what they want for breakfasts, and they said cereal and milk, but I nixed that and asked them what else they want, gave them the option of pancakes, waffles, muffins, and porridge, and they said they don’t want muffins for breakfast, but want pancakes, waffles, and porridge, so we put that down on the chart.

I left the weekend blank, from Friday supper until Saturday supper, since I have more time over the weekend and then that gives me room to change things up and allow my creativity to come out.
Most of the meal only proteins are set in stone; the rest is up to me, depends on what I have, and what I am able to get cheaply.
Part of my big issue with making menu plans is I don’t like their rigidity; my life is more about going with the flow, seeing how much energy I have, seeing what’s on sale, seeing what needs to be used up, so I always felt like following a menu plan simply wasn’t realistic, in addition to being sure that it would end up costing more and involve food waste.
Therefore, on this menu plan, I predominantly wrote just the protein, unless it was a dish that was a meal in one. This allows me to change up the carbs and veggies as needed. If I have leftover carbs, or am running low on the standard carb, I’ll just replace it with another one instead of needing to go out shopping even if I hadn’t planned on it. Legumes are the thing that I pretty much can always get at the same price, and I can easily stock up on them for a while, so I don’t have to worry about fluctuating prices making my grocery bills increase by following a menu rigidly.
Since produce is where there is the biggest need for flexibility, both in terms of what needs to be used up, and what is seasonal and hence on sale, and what I actually have energy to make, I like that I left that blank on the menu plan. I can make a cooked veggie dish or salad and serve it for two or three meals in a row if I want and not have to worry about wasting leftovers. If I have more energy I can do more intricate, and if I’m lacking energy, I can just slice up a tomato or cucumber or pepper or carrot (or even give them whole ones if I’m feeling super lazy). And of course, only with what is in season or I foraged or what is currently in the fridge.

After we finalized the menu plan, I asked the kids if they’d be fine with having exactly that every week, and they said they’d prefer to have a two week rotation, so then they added two more legume dishes they’d eat:
Lentil bolognese.
Lentils with hot dogs and tomato sauce.